Life as a working mum often feels like a balancing act on a tightrope, but what happens when the tightrope feels like it’s suddenly gone slack? Feeling stuck—whether it’s in your career, family routines, or your sense of self—can be overwhelming. It can feel like there’s no way out, no light at the end of the tunnel. But the good news is that you can get unstuck, one step at a time.
Why Do We Feel Stuck?
Feeling stuck often stems from a combination of factors—mental, emotional, and even physical. As mothers, our lives are intricately connected to those we care for, which can make it harder to prioritise our own needs. Many women experience this during pivotal life phases, like returning to work after maternity leave, or when the demands of work and parenting collide in unexpected ways. There’s science to back this up. When we feel stuck, our brain perceives it as a threat, triggering stress responses. Chronic stress can cloud our ability to problem-solve or take action. For mothers in particular, societal expectations and self-imposed pressures often add to the mental load, creating a cycle that feels impossible to break.
Step 1: Isolate the Big Issues
One of the biggest mistakes we make when trying to get out of a rut is attempting to tackle everything at once. Here’s the truth: you don’t have to fix your entire life today. Start by identifying the one or two biggest issues weighing you down.
For example:
Are you struggling with time management?
Is there a relationship in your life that needs attention?
Are you feeling disconnected from your sense of self?
Once you’ve identified your biggest challenges, you can focus your energy where it’s needed most, instead of spreading yourself too thin.
Step 2: Start Small
Big changes can feel daunting, but small actions create momentum. Even the tiniest step forward can spark hope and motivation. If you’re overwhelmed by your to-do list, start with five minutes of planning each evening.If you’re feeling isolated, text a friend to catch up or join an online community of like-minded women.If your mental or emotional load feels too heavy, consider journaling your thoughts or reaching out to a therapist. The key is to make the first move, no matter how small. Progress—not perfection—is what matters.
Step 3: Recognise When to Seek Help
Sometimes, feeling stuck is a sign of deeper issues that need professional attention. There’s no shame in seeking help from a therapist or counsellor. In fact, it’s one of the most empowering steps you can take. Therapy can help uncover and unblock limiting beliefs or hidden challenges that keep you from moving forward. If therapy feels like a big leap, start by talking to someone you trust or exploring self-help resources like books or podcasts. Remember, seeking help is a sign of strength—not weakness.
The Power of Resetting
When we feel stuck, we often forget that we can reset. Every step forward, no matter how small, creates ripple effects. By isolating your biggest challenges, taking small steps, and seeking help when needed, you’re not just helping yourself—you’re also setting an example for your children. You’re showing them how to face challenges with resilience and self-compassion. So, if you’re feeling stuck today, take a deep breath and remind yourself: you don’t have to figure it all out at once. Start small, lean on support, and trust that brighter days are ahead.